It is a natural desire and typical of that age in which music becomes a reflection and expression of their identity: attend with a group of friends to listen live to their favorite artist. But after the quarantine by COVID-19 and depending on the age of the minor, it is also inevitable that the alarms and fears for the safety of their child are triggered in the parents’ heads of family.
“In adolescence young people look for identification models who are usually public figures such as artists, influencers and singers, therefore, his tendency is to idealize these characters and logically be part of the call they make through concerts, not only to be close to them, but also for being participants in the events that occurred with their peers and thus having common experiences and topics of conversationn”, explains the clinical psychologist Monica Llanos Encalada.
and parents must try to respond in coherence with that reality, advises the doctor. “Parents are the adults and we are expected to have an educated and broad criteria on the different life situationstherefore, dialogue becomes fundamental with our children, since We cannot pretend to have them in a glass bubble, but neither can we pretend to give them extreme freedom, to the point where he exposes himself to unnecessary danger.”
The specialist recommends evaluating this type of permit from the age of 16 of the minor, although beyond the age, granting the authorization to attend a massive show ofIt will depend on the level of development of the adolescent’s thinking and criteria of responsibility. Also, for the possibility that they go alone should also be evaluated the place, the number of people and the type of companions what will you have
A fear that is relieved with dialogue
“Parents are aware that they have no control over the type of people and situations that can occur inside the show”, explains Llanos and that fuels her fears that her children will be exposed to dangers such as vandalism, assault, drugs and sexual promiscuity. “It can also be the case to consider that your child is not prepared to respond or handle situations in which they have to decide on actions that put their integrity at riskgiven that in adolescence, in general, the consequences of actions are not measured and in some cases it can get out of hand.”
The best path, he emphasizes, is promote family dialogue about the advantages and disadvantages of attending this type of shows and even talk about how to react to certain situations that could be presented. “The attitude must be one of openness and not to restricteven if you feel tempted to do so. To reach agreements, you must first listen to the plans and expectations of minors, as well as their own fearsknow the details of the event and the possibilities that exist”.
Thus, once both parties have stated their point of view, You can give way to negotiation and define details such as:
* Which friends are going to accompany them (who are the ones the parents know).
* Safe mobilization to go and leave the Show.
* Precautions and recommendations against incidents that may occur.
* The communication that must be maintained with parents during the show.
“When there is transparency and trust on both sides in this type of situation, and other similar ones, everything flows naturally, as part of life and as training opportunities for our children”.
Opportunities to build trust
However, you don’t have to wait for a massive show to start building trust with your teen. Every casual outing or meeting with friends can be an opportunity to educate them about the dangers in their environment.be alert and take care of yourself.
Y discard the option to follow you secretly or from afar without your child knowing. “At all times, parents must show transparency, truth and be consistent with what they demand of their children,” says Llanos. “Instead of following them it could, for example, agree to drop you off or remove you from the site”, he adds.
The specialist believes parents also grow up with their children and, once they leave childhood, adjust to being parents of teenagers. “Parents must learn to trust our children and be aware that they are going to make mistakes and will have to learn from their own mistakes because they are training for adult lifeTherefore, in adolescence we must carry out an accompaniment and learn to gradually release them”.
What if despite all the family preparation a negative incident occurs? Then it will be necessary to evaluate if the fact escaped from the hands of the minor or if, on the contrary, it was a consequence of not having complied with the rules or the agreements made. “It is important that there is a consequence, but also dialogue about what happened and see it as an opportunity to reflect and learn”.
Recommendations from the authority
Although in each massive event each organizer is responsible for guaranteeing medical assistance emergency in case attendees need it, the largest William Muñoz, chief commissioner of the Specialized Division of the Meritorious Fire Department of Guayaquiladvises to be alert, for example, of the security zones of the site, as well as do not cross the lines that response institutions mark as a limit (hazard tapes). “If they are in closed settings, it could identify emergency exits in advance“, Explain.
From his experience, Muñoz comments that Among the most common problems that they tend to deal with in massive scenarios is exposure to very high temperatures and the sun, as well as cases of dehydration. Although there have also been substantive emergencies, such as when there is an increase in heart rate in one of the attendees.
What should I do if there is an altercation? Move away from the site (to avoid being injured) and ask the nearest response agency for help.
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