Watch for the gorilla – The Happiness Connection –

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I've always been fascinated by the human mind.

I can recall a psychology class from university when we were shown a short video of people throwing basketballs. We were asked to count how many passes the participants in white shirts made.

If you've never done this, watch the Selective Attention Test video before reading the spoiler in the next paragraph.

When it ended, instead of being asked for our answers, the prof wanted to know if we had noticed the person in the gorilla suit.

I had no idea what he was talking about until he showed the video a second time. Sure enough, a person dressed as an ape walked through the shot. I was so busy counting that I didn’t even see it.

This is a great example of how your brain deals with the myriad of signals it receives from your senses. There are simply too many to process, so you need a filtration system.

How does your brain choose what to send to your conscious mind and what to store in your subconscious? It uses your beliefs, experiences, and current focus to decide which things are most important for you to be aware of.

You will undoubtedly have experienced this phenomenon, although you may not have realized what was happening.

  • You decide to buy a specific car and suddenly you notice they're everywhere.
  • You choose an unusual name for your child, only to discover several other children with the same name.
  • You book a holiday to Mexico and then everyone you talk to seems to being going to the same place.

When I found out I was pregnant with my first child, I began to think something weird had happened. Everywhere I looked there were baby bumps and infants. I’d never noticed them before because I wasn’t consciously thinking about babies.

Your brain doesn’t just collect and filter the messages it receives, it also interprets them.

A tingling in your stomach could be illness, nerves, fear, excitement, or hunger. Without consulting you, your brain uses your past experiences, current focus, values, beliefs, and everything it knows about you, to create what it believes is the best explanation for those tingles.

The meaning it attaches is rarely the only way you could translate the sensation. It might not even be the right way.

Often feeling thirsty or bored is misinterpreted as hunger. If you are being careful of your calorie intake, you may learn to question hunger pangs before you reach for food.

If you believe your co-worker is horrible, anything they do will be interpreted in a negative light. If you love them, the translations will be positive.

This helps to explain why two people who’ve had the same experience remember it so differently. No two minds are likely to filter and interpret signals exactly the same way.

This is valuable information if you want to have more control over how you view your life.

Just because you don’t see something, that doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. Your eyes see many things that your brain chooses not to share with you.

You don’t have to accept the first interpretation your mind sends you. There is no guarantee it is the right or only way to see things. You get to choose whether to accept or reject your initial thoughts and reactions. If it doesn’t make you happy, try looking for an alternate explanation.

You may never know why something happened the way it did, or why another person reacted to you in a certain way. Consciously decide to give them the benefit of the doubt or choose a viewpoint that gives you peace.

Imagine you see someone crying? Rather than assuming you know the reason for their tears, take a minute and think of all the reasons that could explain them.

Some questions you might want to ask yourself include:

  • Are they happy tears or sad ones?
  • Does ugly crying mean grievance?
  • If they explain why they’re crying, will they always tell you the truth?
  • Is it possible to cry without understanding why?

Your initial interpretation of the situation is likely to tie in with your own emotions, beliefs, and recent experiences. If you’ve just had an argument with your partner, you are more likely to see the tears as arising from negative emotions.

Start to notice your reactions to other people, and situations. If you don’t like the emotions that arise, see if you can change your perspective. Choose a different interpretation.

The brain is an amazing and often mysterious entity. The more you understand it, the easier it is to choose a viewpoint that supports happiness.


Putting your Christmas decorations up now makes you happier, experts claim – RSVP Live

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OK, so it's only September, but I think we can all agree that it's been a pretty miserable year – and what better way to cheer ourselves up than by getting excited about Christmas?

Of course, dropping the C word (and we mean Christmas) or putting your decorations up too soon can annoy your friends, family and neighbors.

But it turns out people who deck the halls early are actually happier and more relaxed, according to experts.

A study published in the Journal of Environmental Psychology found that people who go all out with their Christmas display are seen as friendly.

“A main effect for the decorated factor indicated that raters used Christmas decorations as a cue that the residents were friendly, “it says.

Meanwhile Steve McKeown, psychoanalyst and owner of The McKeown Clinic, told Unilad that people who break out the tinsel and baubles earlier than others are more nostaglic.

He said: “In a world full of stress and anxiety people like to associate to things that make them happy and Christmas decorations evoke those strong feelings of childhood.

“Decorations are simply an anchor or pathway to those old childhood magical emotions of excitement.

“So putting up those Christmas decorations early extend the excitement. “

Amy Morin, a psychotherapist and writer of 22 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do, added that putting your decorations up early can help you feel more connected to lost loved ones.

“The holidays serve as a reminder of when a loved one was still alive,” she said.

“For people who have lost a loved one, it may serve as a reminder of happy times they had with that person.

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“Decorating early may help them feel more connected with that individual.”

One Dublin house has gotten into the festive season early – by putting their decorations up already.

There was no hanging around for the family, who decided to dazzle their neighbors after the capital was put into Phase Three of lockdown.

One driver passing the house took to social media to post a snap, writing “House in Ballyfermot has literally put up their Christmas decorations already … it's the 22 nd of September. “


Every time Ayushmann won, I have had tears of happiness in my eyes, says actor`s father, Acharya P Khurrana – Zee News

Ayushmann Khurrana

Ayushmann has been named alongside global music sensations Selena Gomez and The Weekend, the visionary director of Parasite Bong Joon Ho, Phoebe Waller-Bridge of Fleabag fame and Michaela Coel, the British actress who became a rage across the world for the visionary show I may Destroy You in the TIME 100 list.

Mumbai: Bollywood star Ayushmann Khurrana is a thought-leader and a youth icon, who has been named as one of the most influential people in the TIME's list of 100 Most Influential people. His father, Acharya P Khurrana, has reacted to this outstanding feat of self-made actor who has etched his name in the history of Indian cinema with his progressive, social entertainers.

“Right from when he received the Filmfare award for Vicky Donor to him being featured on TIME's 100 most influential list, every time Ayushmann won, I have had tears of happiness in my eyes. I have seen him struggle to fulfill his passion for acting, ”says the proud father. The powerhouse performer has seen a meteoric rise to stardom as he has become the poster boy of content cinema in India. Ayushmann’s contribution as an actor to bring about social change through his films has been lauded by everyone and his brand of inspired and clutter-breaking cinema is now called as ‘The Ayushmann Khurrana Genre’.

“Ayushmann was inclined towards acting since childhood. When he was 5 years old, he was part of a Shakespearean play and since then he has been passionate about acting. While he was studying in college, he also formed an acting group. He also used to do street plays in Sector 17 with his friends and even though they were street plays they had a standard. Ayushmann also participated in college festivals and won awards “said his father.

Ayushmann has been named alongside global music sensations Selena Gomez and The Weekend, the visionary director of Parasite Bong Joon Ho, Phoebe Waller-Bridge of Fleabag fame and Michaela Coel, the British actress who became a rage across the world for the visionary show I may Destroy You in the TIME 100 list.


4 Ways to Build a Happier Firm Culture – ThinkAdvisor

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Happy employees are much better employees. Data confirming the correlation between a happy workforce and productivity can be found in many industries across the globe.

As we've seen in many of the advisory firms we consult for, happy employees not only perform better, contribute more and reduce turnover, the firms they work for are more successful, too.

Happy people are more energetic, productive, healthier and, well, happier. Plus, they really make a difference; research has fund we have far greater control over others ’happiness in some respects than was once thought.

How can you improve overall employee happiness for the benefit of your employees and your firm?

Actually, it’s surprising how little it takes to increase overall employee happiness within your firm’s culture. And the good news is, none of it takes money.

Begin with these four small actions, and your culture should soon transform into a much happier place to work:

1. Know that gratitude moves mountains.

A simple thank you goes a long way in increasing employee productivity. When you are leading a firm, it’s easy to see what people are doing wrong. Look deeper at what people are doing right and offer encouragement that puts the attention on employee strengths.

Think about it this way – if you are focusing on your employee's weaknesses, they will spend their time trying to improve in those areas. Be grateful for their strengths, and they will get stronger overall.

2. Reduce stress within your culture.

A prominent symptom of an unhappy culture is stress.

Unfortunately, almost all stress is created from leadership wanting to do too much, with few resources and under a timeline that is unrealistic.

Having realistic expectations of your employees begins with knowing them – truly knowing them.

Reducing stress begins with giving your people a platform to be heard. This will allow them to express what they feel is possible to accomplish in your timeline.

3. Ask for help .

One of the hardest things for me to tackle is the propensity of advisory firm leaders to try to do everything themselves. I get it we all want to be the hero.

But when it comes to your employees, many genuinely want to help you. The problem is, if you tend to just get it done yourself, there are few opportunities for people to contribute to the overall success of the firm.

If you first ask for help, you’ll find people are much happier when they are helping someone else, as apposed to focusing solely on themselves.

4. Acknowledge emotions.

Employees are not machines and therefore, we cannot eliminate emotions from business culture. We must respond to our colleagues ’feelings.

Leaders can be defensive about the negative emotions expressed by their employees. Instead, respond by acknowledging these negative emotions. Often the best response is, “I see you’re upset. How can I help you? ”

When you acknowledge a negative emotion, which are quite common, you can transform it into a positive experience.


Kareena Kapoor Khan Flaunting a Pink State of Mind Is Happiness Galore! – Report Door

We believe that our week seems incomplete without the mention of our perennial #GirlCrush Kareena Kapoor Khan! Well, for starters, looking glamorous is an intangible part of her glorious resume as also acing the art of having it all. All things classy and fabulous is what her larger than life closet looks like. For instance, the second time mommy-to-be took to flaunting a pretty pink voluminous flared dress by Faze. Glowing and in the pink of her heath with that blossoming bump, Kareena was snapped exiting a suburban studio. Juggling work with motherhood right from her firstborn, Taimur Ali Khan, Kareena’s resilience in championing the cause of working mothers is noteworthy. On the fashion front, Kareena loves to regale us with her exceptional style play. Fashion need not be expensive, a personal sense of style is what sets her apart – giving us the masterclass to seamlessly blend in luxurious classic international labels and home-grown ones, striking a chord with us and how!

Right from nailing a basic travel look to oozing sass on the runway, there is no style that Kareena Kapoor Khan cannot attempt and ace as well! Here is a closer look at her pinkalicious moment. Kareena Kapoor Steps Out in a Stylish White Outfit and Then a Comfy Blue Jumpsuit.

Kareena Kapoor Khan – Pink and Fabulous

A high-neck pleated voluminous dress by Faze with a waist belt was teamed up with a low bun and subtle glam. Kareena Kapoor Khan As the Elegant Reynu Taandon Muse Demands Your Attention RIGHT NOW!

Kareena Kapoor Khan in Faze (Photo Credits: Instagram)

On the professional front, Kareena was seen as Deepti Batra in Good Newwz with Akshay Kumar, Kiara Advani and Diljit Dosanjh and in Homi Adajania's Angrezi Medium with Irrfan Khan and Radhika Madan. She will be seen in the official remake of Forest Gump , Laal Singh Chaddha with Aamir Khan.

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Highway healing: Motorcycle riders are happier and have less stress than most car owners, finds a study – Economic Times

If you’ve ever met a bike enthusiast, chances a re you’ve heard them tell you that there’s nothing like riding a motorcycle . While the thought may be terrifying for some, it’s thrilling yet calming for bikers.

A recent study commissioned by Australia's ING revealed that, on average, motorcyclists are happier than the average motorist . The study uncovered the therapeutic potential of motorcycle riding, with 55 per cent of riders agreeing that riding makes them happy – compared to only around 55 per cent of motorists.

A similar study by UCLA’s Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior recorded brain activity and hormone levels before, during and after riding a bike, driving a car and resting. The bike ride resulted in a 21 per cent decrease in biomarkers of stress.

Here’s why riding a bike can help your mental and even physical health :

Reduces stress

Getting stuck in traffic has to be the reason why many of us hate getting out. So, logically, riding a bike reduces anxiety, simply because you’re not going to be jammed in, well, at least not as badly as your friends on four wheels. This can reduce stress and can even ease anxiety levels.

Improves brain health

It's all eyes and ears on the road when you're riding a motorcycle. This sensory focus means that riders are more alert to what is going on around them, increasing brain activity. Riding a bike increases alertness that’s similar to drinking a cup of coffee.

Body benefits

On average, a motorcyclist can burn up to 600 calories per hour depending on the terrain and body type. Your body is working hard to maintain balance, keep you steady against wind forces and supple enough to maneuver.

Riding a bike can be likened to doing a form of low-impact exercise. Apart from this, riding a bike also helps your posture and improves your core muscles over the long term. Also, don’t discount the vitamin D intake.

Part of a community

Riding a bike offers the best of both worlds: Solo time and being part of a larger biking community. Most avid motorcyclists are part of a larger community and this can boost happiness levels and improve mental health.


What happiness experts do to overcome negative thoughts – The CEO Magazine

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Unlock the secrets to happiness – Free Press Journal

What do humans imply by happiness? It is a state of jollity, felicity, gaiety. Psychologists qualify happiness into two categories. Firstly, there is hedonic happiness. This is nothing but short-term positive emotions like joy and excitement which are ephemeral in nature. Then there's eudaimonic happiness, which focuses the human mind with long-ranging outcomes and singular life satisfaction.

It is noteworthy to mention that happiness research has been conducted with startling results in a wide variety of scientific disciplines, including gerontology, social psychology, clinical research and happiness economics.

In the field of philosophy, happiness is translated from the Greek concept of eudemonia , which refers to an opulent life (though not in a negative sense of the term), as against a short emotion or pleasure. The latter is merely a flow of electric current in the mind and body and does not really enhance the development of one's personality.

Hormones which act as a trigger

Researchers have zeroed in on four chemicals which are singular in shaping the happiness quotient among human beings.


Footslogging on the treadmill, long walks, pumping iron, regular yoga, swimming and aerobic exercises where humans burn out adequate number of calories, all lead to the release of endorphins.

Humans relish exercising for a couple of reasons. It assists us in not gaining weight, remaining fit, releasing toxins from the human body and significantly the process of discharge of endorphins makes human joyous by nature. Humans ought to spend a minimum of forty-five minutes exercising every day; a daily dose of reading or watching amusing material every day, these measures help to obtain the daily dose of endorphins.


Achievers are not leaving and get acknowledged for their accomplishments in life, both officially and among their dear ones in family circles. These are positive strokes which assist in the release of dopamine and ensure all-round happiness.

Whenever humans receive positive strokes they feel a sense of deep fulfillment and this releases dopamine. The flip side is lack of positive strokes leads to unhappiness and general dissatisfaction.

This could be the reason why several homemakers remain desultory and unhappy. They rarely get acknowledged or appreciated for their intense contribution in running a household. Do we recall Sridevi’s the sterling performance in the movie English Vinglish ? Despite taking care of the family, her efforts were seldom recognized and she was perpetually chastised, constantly receiving barbs.


The third chemical, a natural mood regulator, is released when actions of humans benefit society at large. Humans transcend themselves and make a singular effort to return to society, nature and their fellow beings. This process is indeed spiritually uplifting and releases serotonin. These activities are usually beyond the ambit of our regular sphere of work. For instance an Art of Living teacher conducts courses for people or works among alcoholics and drug addicts to transfigure their lives which paves the way for their recovery towards a life of sobriety and rehabilitation. Such activity is extremely fulfilling and enriches their personality and empowers them to take on bigger challenges; of course it metamorphoses the lives of the afflicted too.


This is the substance which is released when we become close to other human beings. Humans transcend their covetous, mercenary and self-seeking nature when they drop inhibitions and without seeking any favor in return become close to fellow beings. In such a state nature from its womb bestows abundance, which leads to the growth of consciousness and self-fulfillment.

A simple hug, without expecting anything in return establishes a deep connect with our fellow beings. During the process the chemical oxytocin is released. The Jadoo ki Jhappi from Munnabhai indeed conjures magic. This is the secret formula of spiritual Masters. Similarly, when we shake hands or put our arms around someone's shoulders, gargantuan amounts of oxytocin is released.

It is noteworthy to mention that the cerebellum is a significant part of the human brain . It is situated at the backside of the brain. By following regular s adhana of various spiritual practices, pranayama , yoga, meditation and the unique rhythmic breathing technique of Sudarshan Kriya the cerebellum releases efficacious thought process.

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness,” wrote Ralph Waldo Emerson.

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‘H Is for Happiness’ Review: Using Fuss to Fight Off a Funk – The New York Times

The cuteness and cheer of this film is offset by a refreshingly direct take on depression and despair.

Credit…Samuel Goldwyn Films

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H is for Happiness
Directed by John Sheedy
1h 38m

The Australian children’s film “H Is for Happiness” takes as its heroine a bright-eyed and bushy-tailed 12-year-old who is the kind of student to correct the vocabulary of her teacher, the sort whose raised hand inspires sighs from her classmates. Candice (Daisy Axon) doesn’t seem to mind some rolled eyes — she knows life isn’t a picnic, but she is determined to face it with cheer.

Home presents Candice with her hardest obstacles to happiness. The death of Candice’s sister has driven her mother (Emma Booth) into a depression, and though her parents remain together, Candice’s father (Richard Roxburgh) has disengaged. He is plagued by financial concerns, and a business beef has soured his relationship with Candice’s wealthy uncle (Joel Jackson), who might be able to help. Candice faces her family’s dysfunction with the same willful optimism. Aided by a new classmate, Douglas (Wesley Patten), whose fall from a tree has granted him a gift for magical, multidimensional thinking, Candice devises ways to drag her family out of its funk.

The director John Sheedy crafts a world for Candice to occupy that is as bright and colorful as her outlook. “H Is for Happiness” is a whimsically designed film, with colors popping from the wallpaper, shopkeepers dressed in circus clothes, and references to Dolly Parton songs. Its meticulous visuals do frequently tip into preciousness, yet this cuteness is offset by the movie’s refreshingly direct take on depression and despair. This unusual children’s film may be fussy, but to its credit, it is not frivolous.

H Is for Happiness

Not rated. Running time: 1 hour 38 minutes. Rent or buy on iTunes, Vudu and other streaming platforms and pay TV operators.